Human relationships are complex and people often change that
could lead to an end of a relationship. Most people take the end of a beautiful
relationship easy while others struggle. Sometimes those people who often struggle
with moving on are under too much stress and anxiety. Worse, people that are
unable to transition from a life with a companion to a life of single
blessedness can suffer from depression. We all know that a break up is no
picnic. The roller coaster of emotions can easily turn any person from a
happy-go-lucky to a wasted person who has been lacking quality sleep. We all
have been there and waste time waiting for answers to come but it never came.
Don’t overthink
Overthinking will only make things worse but it is easier said
than done. People that are under stress and anxiety often do overthink about
things in the past and spend anxious moments of what are the things that wait
in the future following a breakup. As they say that laying idle is the devil’s
playground. This is why you need to become more active to veer away your mind
from the fact that you are struggling from the negative feelings caused by a
love gone sour. If you are not able to move on do some exercise; try to fill
your thoughts with black. The deafening blackness in your mind will help you
detach yourself from the frightening thoughts that come from a breakup.
No love songs
Love songs will just make things worse. The message of love
songs will just remind you of the things that you held sacred now becoming your
worst nightmare. This is why listening to mushy love songs must be the last
thing that you should be doing. If you need to be entertained it would help to
watch sports shows and talk shows since these types of programs have the least
mushy content in them. These types of shows will not remind you of the love
that has gone awry.
Forgive yourself
When you think that you are at fault why the relationship ended,
the last thing you should do is to put more pressure in an already pressure-packed
situation. The pain will just become more unbearable if you are unable to
forgive yourself and learn from past mistakes. We are all human and nobody is
perfect. Learn from the lessons that of the past and release the guilt. Put in
your mind that you will fall in love in the future and you will be unable to
love anew unless you are able to forgive yourself.
Write your feelings
Start writing a journal or write a poem. Be absolutely honest
with your feelings and don’t mind about the technicalities or if the poem
sounds sophomoric. You will be amazed how therapeutic writing can be.
Everything will be framed into perspective and your thoughts will become
clearer. Pick up valuable snippets of life lessons when you write your feelings
especially during a dark chapter in your life. Who knows? You can be a great
poet as a result.
Become involved
A break-up is not the end of the world. You can use the new
found time for yourself to improve your life by doing things that you never did
before. Exercising is one of the activities that you can do to improve yourself
while trying to bounce back.
You’re not alone
Let’s face it. Breakups happen to everyone and it is one thing that you will experience
when you go through this journey called life. Sad you may be right now, but there
will come a time that you will look back at this episode in your life and just
laugh about it. You will learn that moving on is the best decision you have
made in your life and you will find that you have become a better and stronger
person.
The next thing that you should do is to stop reading this
article and go out. Keeping yourself imprisoned with your negative emotions
will just bring a lot of anguish and heart ache. Go out and spend time with friends
that love you.
About
the Author: Ryan
Rivera writes about panic attacks, depression, stress and anxiety. You may
reach him through his Calm Clinic Twitter account.