Human relationships are complex and people often change that
could lead to an end of a relationship. Most people take the end of a beautiful
relationship easy while others struggle. Sometimes those people who often struggle
with moving on are under too much stress and anxiety. Worse, people that are
unable to transition from a life with a companion to a life of single
blessedness can suffer from depression. We all know that a break up is no
picnic. The roller coaster of emotions can easily turn any person from a
happy-go-lucky to a wasted person who has been lacking quality sleep. We all
have been there and waste time waiting for answers to come but it never came.
Overthinking will only make things worse but it is easier said
than done. People that are under stress and anxiety often do overthink about
things in the past and spend anxious moments of what are the things that wait
in the future following a breakup. As they say that laying idle is the devil’s
playground. This is why you need to become more active to veer away your mind
from the fact that you are struggling from the negative feelings caused by a
love gone sour. If you are not able to move on do some exercise; try to fill
your thoughts with black. The deafening blackness in your mind will help you
detach yourself from the frightening thoughts that come from a breakup.
No love songs
Love songs will just make things worse. The message of love
songs will just remind you of the things that you held sacred now becoming your
worst nightmare. This is why listening to mushy love songs must be the last
thing that you should be doing. If you need to be entertained it would help to
watch sports shows and talk shows since these types of programs have the least
mushy content in them. These types of shows will not remind you of the love
that has gone awry.
When you think that you are at fault why the relationship ended,
the last thing you should do is to put more pressure in an already pressure-packed
situation. The pain will just become more unbearable if you are unable to
forgive yourself and learn from past mistakes. We are all human and nobody is
perfect. Learn from the lessons that of the past and release the guilt. Put in
your mind that you will fall in love in the future and you will be unable to
love anew unless you are able to forgive yourself.
Write your feelings
Start writing a journal or write a poem. Be absolutely honest
with your feelings and don’t mind about the technicalities or if the poem
sounds sophomoric. You will be amazed how therapeutic writing can be.
Everything will be framed into perspective and your thoughts will become
clearer. Pick up valuable snippets of life lessons when you write your feelings
especially during a dark chapter in your life. Who knows? You can be a great
poet as a result.
A break-up is not the end of the world. You can use the new
found time for yourself to improve your life by doing things that you never did
before. Exercising is one of the activities that you can do to improve yourself
while trying to bounce back.
You’re not alone
Let’s face it. Breakups happen to everyone and it is one thing that you will experience
when you go through this journey called life. Sad you may be right now, but there
will come a time that you will look back at this episode in your life and just
laugh about it. You will learn that moving on is the best decision you have
made in your life and you will find that you have become a better and stronger
The next thing that you should do is to stop reading this
article and go out. Keeping yourself imprisoned with your negative emotions
will just bring a lot of anguish and heart ache. Go out and spend time with friends
that love you.
the Author: Ryan
Rivera writes about panic attacks, depression, stress and anxiety. You may
reach him through his Calm Clinic Twitter account.
Depression is a
serious condition. Like any condition it needs to be treated by a professional.
It could lead to dire consequences such as suicide. Men are unlikely to be open
about experiencing depression. It is important that you are able to tell
whether your boyfriend, husband, male friend or brother is suffering from
depression. The earlier you can tell the better the cure will become.
or substance abuse
Men tend to turn to
alcohol to drown their depression. Since males are less likely to express themselves
when they feel depressed, increased alcohol intake is a cue you should
consider. This is not only very harmful for the body especially the kidneys and
liver, it may also trigger episodes that could lead to suicidal tendencies.
Also, men could engage in drug abuse, a powder keg waiting to explode. It is
because they prefer to resort to these wrongful coping mechanisms rather than
tell the world how they feel and what kind of predicament they are in. Most of
the time, men would just choose to let all these negative emotions bottle up
inside them. Unfortunately, keeping your negative feelings and problems to
yourself will only increase the risk of these issues not being resolved. You
should know that men are four times prone to committing suicide than women.
in eating patterns
Changes can be
either less food intake or increased food intake. If your man is eating less
than usual or has no appetite to eat on time then you should be worried.
Chances are he is suffering from depression. On the flipside, if your man is
voracious and consumes food more than he usually does, it opens a can of worms.
Not only he can be depressed but also exposes his body to harm by eating more
than he is supposed to. He can develop high cholesterol, diabetes, hypertension
and other lifestyle diseases. Once you
notice your man experiencing these signs of depression you must be quick enough
to find ways of helping him get out of such quagmire.
tend to feel a lot of physical pain
Depression can be a
condition of the mind. Unfortunately, it could become more painful for males.
Men tend to have physical pain attributed to depression. They may complain about nausea,
dizziness, headaches, stomachaches or chest pain. Primary health care professionals
may not be able to diagnose this properly as something linked to depression. However,
you must still insist on undergoing thorough physical laboratory tests. It
would also be wise to consult a therapist or psychiatrist for better chances of
getting accurate diagnosis.
men don’t look sad
If we equate
depression with a gloomy state then it does not work on males. Men tend to hide
their feelings which become a challenge to health professionals to diagnose
depression at an early stage. Although the male may not show signs that he is
sad; it could come in other forms such as lack of sleep, extreme anxiety and
lethargy. Men are more likely to feel angry rather than appear sad. If your man
is easily annoyed than usual, then chances are he is suffering from depression.
don’t cry; they become violent
Women cope with
depression by crying. Since media and upbringing has forced men not to cry a
lot, they use other avenues as their release. Some men would act irrational or
reckless. They could develop a new zeal about their work or take up a hobby and
become passionate about it. Sometimes men tend to become violent and unable to
digest understanding and reject the voice of reason.
We all know that
depression is also rooted by the lack or absence of certain chemicals in the
brain. If you feel that your man is suffering from depression, seek
professional help right away. Convince him that asking for help is not a sign
of weakness but strength to acknowledge that there is something wrong waiting
to be fixed.
the Author: Ryan Rivera used to suffer from anxiety
attacks for seven years. He now
dedicates his life helping those people who are suffering from stress, anxiety and
depression through his writings. You can
read more of his articles at Calm Clinic.
After nearly two decades of raising a
child, parents can feel a bit blue once they head off to college or move into a
new place for a job, creating the empty nest syndrome that leaves many parents
wondering what to do with their sudden free time. Full-time parents or parents who have
problems with separation anxiety may suffer the most. There are, however, many advantages of the
free time and space of an empty nest, one of which is the freedom to travel to
new places and see great sights.
Consider planning well ahead of time with a
spouse or partner once your children have confirmed their intention to leave
for college or a new home. This is the
first time in a while that a couple may have privacy and complete control of
the home, and it may be necessary to re-ignite the romance after so many years
with little time to share. Whether you
want to take a class on cooking or music, whether you want to re-design the
home, or whether you want to get out to a new country, put down your ideas on a
dream list in advance.
An empty nest gives many parents the chance
to try something they have never done before.
Perhaps that means hiking up some of the tallest peaks in the country,
or white-water rafting down the fiercest rapids. It may mean taking up an old hobby, as
well. Many parents go on a vacation or
cruise where they have the chance to participate in more extreme sports like
skydiving, windsurfing, or trophy fishing.
Many resorts, furthermore, offer older couples the chance to enjoy such
activities safely. You can escape and do some Cabo fishing
simply by checking out their tourism site and sign up for time on a boat.
A vacation to another part of the world may
be a great way to spice up life and a relationship. Getting to a part of the world where not many
people speak English and hamburgers are not on the menu may be a bit daunting,
but can create long memories. Tours and
safaris through parts of Africa, East Asia, and South America may be possible
once the parents are no longer paying for the room and board of their children,
and it is never a bad idea to splurge a bit once this major milestone in your
life has been reached.